Many relationships work successfully when each partner consistently thinks about what they can do to improve the life of their partner. This does not mean you do not have any time for yourself and that you must spend all your life working for the benefit of someone else, but relationship counseling will focus not only on what you do by yourself, but what you do together, that makes you happy.
Looking for A Joint Focus
Some couples will complain that they have drifted apart because they no longer have a similar interest in life. This can become especially true following a long relationship and after the children have left home.
Relationship counseling may suggest that you focus on something that you can both value and provides a common focus for your time and communication. Whether this is community work, learning how to play chess or organizing a new online business, it is the target of the joint focus that will bring the interest and effort from both of you. When something is fresh in your lives and you are both keen to learn and understand, there is great hope for the future.
We find couples who can spend a significant period together forming new interests and bonding are simply carrying out the process which brought their relationship together originally. Where couples can stimulate a high level of interest, this will bring positive reactions and lose any negative conversations.
We understand that life is a series of challenges and whatever plans and preparations you put forward, the train does not always move in a straight line. You do have to cope with significant roadblocks from time to time. Our relationship counseling conversations will try to help you find and understand skills that will bring you closer, researching ways that you can interact together, which stimulates your relationship and exposes it to a whole new world out there.
