Love is a choice. You made a choice to enter a relationship with your partner. You made a choice to marry them. You made a choice to love them despite their imperfections and flaws. You’re making a choice right now to seek couples counseling if you two are facing issues in your relationship. With help from couples therapy like Marriage Couples Counseling in New York City, you and your partner will be well on your way to a more loving and understanding relationship.
It is so incredibly easy to lose sight of your love for each other and become overwhelmed by hectic schedules, everyday stresses, and seemingly endless responsibilities. Making your relationship a priority can definitely take a backseat to many different situations, such as transitioning to a new job, having a baby, or even taking care of a sick loved one.
Taking your partner and relationship for granted can seem like a much easier route to take compared to making an effort to mend any issues you are trying to avoid confronting. Nobody said love and relationships were easy. Healthy, lasting and happy relationships require work, commitment and unconditional love from both partners.
Seeking Couples Counseling in New York City
No two relationship issues are the same. Every couple is different and come from various backgrounds. Many couples reach out to a relationship therapist for various reasons. Couples counseling is nothing to be ashamed of, nobody is perfect, and like individual therapy, couples therapy is meant to develop positive thinking and healthy habits. Couples seek relationship therapy for many different reasons.
How long you and your partner will need to attend couples’ therapy is dependent on your life circumstances, as well as the severity of any emotional problems you’re struggling with. The strengths and resources that you can call upon together are also a factor in the length of couples’ therapy.
However, in a situation where couples can’t move past disloyalty, betrayal or infidelity, we can help you find a safe place where you can express your deeper feelings of frustration, deprivation and betrayal, begin to heal, slowly repair all the hurts, and rediscover your love and mutual respect. We also support couples who decide to separate in working through the harsh – but much-needed – process of ending their relationship in a healthy way, especially where children are involved.
All couples can experience benefits from couples therapy no matter how long they’ve been together. But research has shown that there are two stages in the life cycle when divorce rates are highest: young couples with children in elementary school, and empty nesters who have adult children that have left. Some couples wait until they are emotionally disconnected in their relationship and on the verge of breaking up to seek help. Your relationship is valuable and worth the time and effort needed to flourish – make it a priority.
Strengthen Your Communication and Connection
Through couples counseling and couples therapy, you and your partner can find new ways to enhance your communication and your connection, both of which may have been lost over time. In order to have a lasting and fulfilling relationship, you and your significant other must be willing to make prioritizing your relationship part of your everyday routines. Everything you learn from couples therapy must be applied daily, and there needs to be a reciprocal effort to keep the love and relationship alive.
Couples therapy can greatly help you and your partner healthily work through what may seem are unfixable problems. In a Marriage Couples Counseling session, we use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) to bring about seven important conversations described by Sue Johnson in her book, Hold Me Tight. These conversations include:
- Recognizing Demon Dialogues
- Finding the Raw Spots
- Revisiting Rocky Moments
- Hold Me Tight
- Forgiving Injuries
- Bonding through Sex and Touch
- Keeping Your Love Alive
Marriage Couples Counseling NYC
Here at Marriage Couples Counseling in New York City, we have over 80 years of collective experience working hands-on with couples and families of all ages. These include people from diverse, religious and cultural backgrounds. Couples therapy includes pre-marital counseling, marital counseling, and counseling for all couples, from heterosexual to those who identify as LGBTQIA+.
Marriage Couples Counseling in NYC’s areas of specialty includes couples counseling, marriage and family counseling, relationship counseling and therapy, pre-marital counseling issues and conflicts, couples sex therapy in the spirit of Kamasutra, relationship breakup advice and leaving abusive relationships. No matter what situation you and your partner may find yourselves in, we are here to help you unconditionally. Contact us today at 212-673-4618 for a free initial phone consultation.