Here are excerpts from an article I co-wrote with Dr. Lisa Kaplin that recently appeared in The World of Psychology. In view of the many cultural pressures put on both men and women today to conform to established norms about what it means to be male or female, the article may offer a few surprises.
Category Archives: Couples Therapy
Surprise! Men Also Find Vulnerability Attractive and the Reasons Why: He Said, She Said
Loyalty Binds and How Couples Can Deal with Them
Here is a wonderful YouTube video that we found by Marcia Sheinberg of the Ackerman Institute: Loyalty binds experienced by families.
Why Men Find Vulnerabililty Attractive When They’re Having Sex and How Both Men and Women Can Inspire Each Other to Have More Passionate Sex
Why Men Hide Their Vulnerability Differently Than Women.
One of the most important insights shared by Brene Brown in her TED talk on shame and vulnerability is about how shame in our culture is organized by gender.
Good and Bad Fights for Couples
A good fight always ends with improved understanding. The two angry lovers reach a turning point, a moment when they touch each others hearts, tenderly. A bad fight never gets to this moment. It drags on and on until the lovers give up in complete despair.