To form a lasting, fulfilling relationship, a deeper understanding of each other’s thoughts and feelings is essential. Lovers have been attempting to mend ties and communicate in a more productive way for years, but making your bond last takes time, patience, and complete commitment to the other person.
Unlocking the Mystery of Healthy Relationships in Relationship Therapy
Relationship therapy is key for many couples and their bond
The Couples Dialogue is an immensely powerful technique that will allow you to engage your partner more effectively so that you can both begin to understand how the other thinks and feels during certain situations. If you have ever been faced with a situation where you wondered what on earth your partner was thinking when he/she did such a thing, the Couples Dialogue can help you sort through your differences to find a better path.
Learning to Use the Couples Dialogue after Relationship Therapy
With the Couples Dialogue, you will learn to better empathize with your partner, validate his or her feelings/beliefs, and mirror what they have said to you so that they know you understand. It is okay if you still disagree with the action, but simply participating in this exercise will help you understand more fully what your partner’s intentions were during a specific situation.
Using Relationship Therapy to Mirror, Validate, and Empathize with Your Partner.
When you use the Couples Dialogue, you will first want to choose one person to be the sender of the message and one person to be the receiver.
When you use the Couples Dialogue, you will first want to choose one person to be the sender of the message and one person to be the receiver. After that, the sender will communicate his/her message and the receiver will then mirror or repeat the message that he/she has heard. Next, the receiver will validate the feelings of the sender by saying something to the effect of, “I can see what you’re saying…” or “I understand how that makes you feel…” etc. Empathy is the area that is the most important because it shows that the receiver of the message deeply understands the thoughts and feelings of the sender. Phrases like, “I can imagine how (insert event) made you feel,” or “I have a sense of exactly what you are feeling now.”
Note: The receiver does not have to necessarily agree with what the sender is saying, but the act of mirroring, validating, and empathizing can have phenomenal effects regardless. In relationship therapy at Marriage Couples Counseling in New York, our counselors can help you become familiar with the process so that you are able to resolve conflicts more effectively and form a strong, lasting bond with one another.