Depression is one of the most commonly diagnosed mental disorders in the United States. Tens of millions of Americans are directly affected by the pain this debilitating illness brings. In many instances, depression can destroy relationships, because it’s devastating effects are silent – and can tear those closest apart. Here’s everything you need to know about depression and relationships.
Depression Affects Sex Drive
Depression can have a negative impact on all areas of your relationship. This can include your sex drive.
Our libido is usually determined on how we feel, and when we feel down, often our sex drive decreases as well. This is especially the case with depression. Sex is often one of the greatest ways to bond with a partner. If your significant other doesn’t understand why you haven’t been as frisky lately, they may start to feel that you just aren’t that into them.
Unfortunately, when it comes to depression, very often it’s the case that it isn’t them – it’s you. But discussing that can be extremely difficult, leading to fractures in a relationship. This is where effective communication skills are essential. In fact, it’s something that we deal with consistently on our blog. By talking through your issues, you can lovingly explain that you aren’t feeling yourself at the moment, but that your lack of excitement in the bedroom is in no way a reflection on how much you care for them.
Arguments Can Increase
Depression often leads to an increase in squabbling and arguing in relationships. Many people wrongly assume that depression is characterized by crying, but this often isn’t the case. Depression can leave sufferers with a shorter temper, impatience, and a much more cynical outlook on life. This outlook often leads to fights.
When you find that your depression is leading to misunderstandings and arguments, the best thing you can do is to speak openly and honestly with your partner about your depression. You need to acknowledge that your illness is having a direct effect on your moods and that it’s not who you really are. Your partner should understand. Discussing frankly with your significant other can help them to recognize symptoms of depression and help them learn to react accordingly.
Isolation is Common
Depression often leads to individuals isolating themselves from the world – and even the people they love. With depression, the tendency to emotionally checkout is common. By explaining to your partner that your despair makes you feel the need to be left alone, they can give you your space and privacy, while at the same time staying nearby to allow you both to know that you are always there for each other.
Couples Therapy to Help You and Your Partner Communicate
If you and your partner feel that a couple’s counselor could help your relationship flourish by helping the two of you better communicate, don’t wait to find one. Marriage Couples Counseling in New York City is here to assist you and your significant other with any communication issues you may be facing. Do not hesitate to reach out and seek our help. Call us today at 212-673-4618 for the help you need.
