Love knows no boundaries. We see life through rose-colored lenses when we have that special someone in our lives. We wake up excited to see them, and even when things seem to go wrong, we want to make things right and work through the issues. However, for many people, they can lose hope in their relationship when faced with the decision of living long distances from their partner.
Sometimes, they think they’ll be missing out on potentially being with someone else, or they may have trust issues from being so far away from each other. Regardless of any reasons, if you come across this situation in a relationship, you should take many things into consideration. Keep reading for Marriage Couples Counseling in NYC’s tips to answering the age-old question: is a long-distance relationship worth it?
You See a Future With Them
When you’re dating and fall in love, you either see yourselves spending the rest of your lives together or you don’t. If you do, you’re both galvanized – perhaps even shocked – by a deep faith in your joint power to create a rich, exciting life together, and take on new challenges while caring and supporting each other. It’s really as simple as that. If you can’t ever imagine living without each other, we at Marriage Couples Counseling in NYC believe that a long-distance relationship is worth the effort. And it will take a lot of effort!
You Must Be Resolved to Put in the Time and Effort
Any kind of interpersonal relationship – especially romantic – requiring time and effort made for it is a known fact. If you’re willing to take time out of your day and life to accommodate a new aspect to your relationship, you may be suited for a long-distance relationship. This may mean Skyping or Face Timing at certain times if there are different time zones involved, making mutual efforts to travel to see each other, accepting that they may not respond to your messages right away, etc.
If the thought of needing to put extra time and effort into your relationship makes you roll your eyes, or if you genuinely don’t think you are capable of changing anything for your partner, do not enter a long-distance relationship. It is better for both of you to part ways instead of being in a relationship where one or both partners feel burdened.
You Must Trust Each Other Wholeheartedly
Trust is absolutely essential in a romantic relationship. It can be especially put to the test in a long-distance relationship, because you will not be seeing each other for extended periods of time, nor will you know where they always are at any given moment. If you trust your partner no matter what, with no boundaries or conditions, you two will likely be able to thrive in a long-distance relationship. Trust really is so incredibly important to have with a romantic partner.
There is no foundation for a relationship without trust. Without trust, whether you and your partner are one or 100 miles away, it is destined to fail. If you do not fully trust your partner, for whatever reasons you may have, why would you continue your relationship by suffering through long distance? Not only would it be incredibly healthier for the two of you to be apart, but you would most likely be much happier finding a partner you actually trust.
You May Need to Seek Help From a Couples Counselor
If you and your partner find yourselves at a crossroads of whether or not to go through with a long-distance relationship, a couple’s counselor in New York City can help. You two are not alone, and with the right guidance, both of you can make a smart decision with both of your best interests in mind. Give Marriage Couples Counseling in NYC a call today at (212) 673-4618 for an in-depth phone consultation.
