It takes a lot of hard work to be successful in your relationships. Couples face all types of adversity from the minute they commit themselves to each other. It’s how they deal with this strife that determines whether the relationship will succeed. This post will discuss several sources of relationship conflict and identify how to avoid that conflict in a relationship.
Fear of Infidelity
The most common cause of conflict in relationships is the fear of infidelity. Even if there has never been any indication of cheating or the desire to cheat from your significant other, you may still have this fear deep inside. For some, this fear is ingrained in them from a young age. Maybe their parents divorced because of adultery. Perhaps they’ve seen what infidelity can do to a relationship, and they always worry this occurrence will be a problem in their relationship, leading to trust issues and displeasure. It is in your best interest to seek counseling if you fear your significant other will be unfaithful.
Career Stress
Another cause of relationship conflict stems from career stress. Career-oriented people often spend a lot of time at the office, including time off the clock or when they could be home with their loved ones. This mindset can put a lot of strain on a relationship. The stress reverberates through both people in the relationship, which is why couples should seek therapy to learn methods for coping with career or work-related stress.
Money, Money, Money
Almost every single relationship will have at least one fight or disagreement regarding money at one point or another. Money problems are a common type of relationship conflict. One example causing money arguments is a disparity in levels of income. It is difficult for some people to understand how their spouse or partner earns more than them. This mindset can become problematic when it seeps into the relationship. When this type of issue arises, you need to consider enlisting outside help that will instruct you on how to manage money conflicts in your relationship.
Serious Illness
A rare source of conflict in relationships stems from a debilitating illness. When one partner receives a diagnosis indicating the presence of a serious disease or other medical condition, it can lead to a lot of stress and anxiety. If the sick partner was the breadwinner or took care of the home, roles will have to change. This shift can be a significant culture shock for the entire family.
How to Avoid Relationship Conflict
Some tips for avoiding these types of conflict include:
- Always have an open and honest conversation with your partner.
- Do not dismiss your partner or show them contempt.
- Have a conversation without blaming your partner.
- Truly listen to what your partner has to say.
- Try to take on a different perspective within your relationship.
- Avoid saying words such as “never” and “always.”
Dealing with Conflict in Your Relationship? Call an Experienced Therapist Today
If you are dealing with conflict in intimate relationships, and you don’t know where to turn, it might be time to speak to an experienced therapist. The team from Marriage Couples Counseling is here to answer all your questions and provide you with different ways to cope with sources of conflict. Call our office at (212) 673-4618 to schedule your first appointment to create a healthier and happier relationship.
