When couples today decide to get married their church or place of worship may require that they attend some type of course. This can be a church or religious-based program or it could include premarital therapy in New York City from private therapists.
Even in religious or secular services where no premarital therapy in New York City is required it is highly recommended that couples complete the therapy to learn more about each other, their expectations and what they see as their future together in the relationship.
Missed Assumptions
Most couples are not experts at relationships, and they really don’t stop to think about how they are going to handle areas of disagreement. When couples don’t do this and don’t consider the “what ifs” in a relationship, they often find themselves in deep conflict over very opposing ideas.
When these assumptions are not addressed in premarital therapy in New York City before the wedding, they will often end up being discussed in marriage couples therapy sometime in the future.
It is amazing for many couples to wake up and find that the person they are married to is not acting, thinking or making the decisions that they anticipated. However, it is really just a case of not having premarital therapy to explore these issues before they became a very real problem.
Hidden Expectations
Sometimes in marriage couples therapy in NYC information comes forth that shows that one or both people in the relationship were harboring hidden expectations about what the other person would do.
Often these expectations are deeply rooted in the family of origin expectations. When one person sees a very traditional family because that is what they grew up in and the other person sees a more independent and less traditional role for themselves or their partner real conflict can and does occur.
By working through marriage couples therapy in NYC, couples even after marriage can explore these different assumptions and expectations and move towards common ground and understanding. Relationships can be saved, but ideally addressing the issues prior to the conflict is the most constructive option to consider – so is knowing when to choose compromise.
Getting Support From Marriage Counselors In NYC
Each time I see couples, I use my expertise and knowledge to analyze the situation and provide the best explanation I can for what is going wrong. I then recommend a plan of action for fixing it.
At Marriage Couples Counseling & Life Coaching our goal is always to support couples and to provide relationship advice that will help them to stay together happily. However, in some cases, we may focus on relationship advice on breakups when one or both of the parties to the relationship are unable, or unwilling, to work towards a better and healthier marriage. Don’t let miscommunication or drifting become the end of a marriage or relationship. Even if your marriage feels strong, premarital therapists in NYC can help you work towards maintaining that happiness in the long-term. Contact us online to schedule a consultation today or call (212) 673 4618 to speak with a counseling specialist.
