In-person meetings allow me to pick up on subtle nonverbal cues such as your body language, facial expressions, and gestures. These tell me much more about what you’re feeling deep inside your body than the words that come out of your mouth. For example, if someone gets tearful, I always gently ask: If the tears had words, what would they be telling you? Or if a leg starts twitching, I’ll say: Breath into the feeling. What comes up as you let yourself feel the twitching?
My office, is really a living room with flourishing plants, beautiful paintings and direct sunlight streaming through the windows from the Southwest.
My sitting in a rocking chair directly facing you creates a stronger sense of connection and support. For the vast majority of people, physical proximity can be reassuring, even comforting. Many people feel they’re truly being seen, even held by me which encourages trust and helps build a stronger therapeutic alliance. All of us, no matter what our life circumstances, need to be seen by someone who can be there for us. This is the only way we can truly discover and know who we really are.
In person therapy completely protects you from technical disruptions from Skype, Zoom or Google Meet that often break the flow of words, facial expressions and body language that can only be experienced in a completely safe and confidential in person meeting.
In person, face to face psychotherapy is the only way a knowledgeable psychotherapist can discover who you really are by encouraging you to delve into the unfathomable, hidden parts of yourself. In the words of Leonard Cohen, such a therapist can help you discover: The beauty lost to you, yourself.
